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28 May 2012 @ 09:39 pm
 
I started my first part time live out nanny job about two and half months ago. When I was hired I was told that only job was to take of the boys and prepare one meal, snacks, and cleaning up any mess that the boys made.

The problem is the job has add on many things that were not discussed when I was hired. Such as:


  • They bought a new puppy after I started the job.
    • The puppy add some extra duties to the job. Cleaning up after her, taking her out ect.
    • It also bites. I have been bitten many times and it will chase after the boys and will bite them if I don't get to her [the puppy] first.
    • If I put the puppy outside it will cry and bark and the boys will beg for the puppy to brought back inside.
  • They have two older kids will soon be out of school. These kids don't need a nanny but
    • they undermine me. Giving the little ones sugary snacks, or letting watch extra TV.
    • the elder sister will yell at the boys when she doesn't get her way. And will not stop when I correct her.
  • Communication is a big problem.
    • The father will tell me one thing the morning. But then the mother will tell something different when she comes home for the day.
    • Sometimes I am not told important information. For example, about a week ago, the five year old was sick. But I was not told that he had a fever.
    • I try to talk to mother about the day when she comes home to talk but she seems too busy to talk. Or she is yelling at the older kids.
    • The mother seems to not take what I am saying to heart. She blames me if the children misbehaves or if I have a problem with one of the children she will we will do nothing or scold the child very gently (sometimes teasingly).



I am unsure what do. I am planning to ask the parents if they will sit down with me for like an hour on the weekend to talk about these issues.  But I am also thinking about giving my two week notice. Suggestions? Thoughts?

UPDATE: I have given two weeks notice. The dog has become a safety issue for both me and the boys. And the parents will not address this. My last day is next Friday, the 15th.
 
 
 
Emmastarbuck1980 on May 29th, 2012 10:04 am (UTC)
I'd ask for a sit down first that way they can't say that your notice came out of the blue. Write down what you want to address and tell them at the meeting that if you can't work on this as a collective then you will consider giving in your notice. This could back fire and they might say leave now but then you will know that they never really valued your work and you are better off out anyway. Hopefully they do value your work with the children and will want to work on it. In my experience bad communicators are always bad communicators.

I hope this works out for you but if you feel under valued and are treated like crap then I'd leave but I know that's easier said than done.
Fairy Dreameriamfairydreamer on May 29th, 2012 10:20 pm (UTC)
I agree with what has already been said - I'd try to talk to the parents but be prepared in case that doesn't work (I have been a nanny for more than 25 yrs)
Good luck with whatever you do -